If you’re pregnant, you may be curious or worry whether it’s safe to have sex and how you can go about it. The good thing is, it’s perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy.
You might find that your sex drive is uncontrollable during your pregnancy – you may go through phases of being very sex driven, and then phases of not wanting sex at all – so it’s important to know about sex during pregnancy and what you can expect.
While sex is safe for most couples during pregnancy, the most difficult part may be having sex in a way that’s enjoyable and comfortable for you – particularly if you’re far along with your pregnancy. It can take a little time to explore and experiment together to work out what’s comfortable and pleasurable for you both, especially if you have a bump in the way! Your breasts might feel tender, and it may be uncomfortable if your partner penetrates too deeply, so it might be better to lie on your sides with your partner behind; this way he won’t put any pressure on your bump but can penetrate and stimulate you at the same time.
You can also:
– Straddle your partner as he lies on his back. This way, there is no pressure on your belly and you can control the pace.
– Lie side by side with your partner facing your back, and entering you from behind.
– Support yourself on your knees and elbows, and have your partner kneel and enter you from behind.
It’s important to talk about sex with your partner. Your partner’s desire for sex may equally increase or decrease during your pregnancy, and be aware that he might feel very cautious about having sex with the fear of hurting you or the baby, so be sure to communicate what feels good and positions that you’re comfortable with. Try experimenting with different sexual positions to find ones that suit you both. It may take time to get used to it, particularly as your bump grows bigger, however there is no reason why you should stop having sex just because of your pregnancy.
It’s very normal and very common for your sex drive to increase or decrease during pregnancy. Many women find that they experience symptoms such as tiredness, sickness and breast tenderness during pregnancy. They also often find that their desire for sex increases, due to the extra hormones in your body as well as not having to worry about contraception. Remember that it’s impossible to get pregnant again whilst you’re pregnant – so this isn’t something to worry about! However, if you’re having sex with a new partner you still need to wear protection as you are still at risk of contracting an STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection).
Be aware that it’s common for women to experience some bleeding during intercourse whilst pregnant, especially in their first trimester. This is cause by the normal swelling of capillaries in the cervix, which can burst when irritated during sex. Spotting (random spots of blood) is generally nothing to worry about, however you should mention it to your midwife just to let her know if this does happen. However, if you are ever losing a lot of blood, you should consult your doctor immediately and get checked out at the hospital.
If you have any queries or worries, the best thing to do is consult your midwife or doctor and they can offer guidance and reassurance about sex during your pregnancy.